Do you know who you are? What kind of person you are?
How would your friends describe you? How many people truly consider you a friend? A good person?
What kind of person do you want to be? What do you want others to remember about you?
Is this the person you are and will be? Are you happy with whom you have become?
I have asked these questions in the past so many times, I’m sure you have too and I’m sure you have freaked out as well. But it’s okay, you are allowed to a moment of doubt, of being lost at some point in our lives and just not knowing and not understanding. But you need this, you need to get lost, you need to not understand, you need to be confused and have questions but more importantly you need to ask yourself what am I doing? Where am I? Where am I headed? What do I want? It is thanks to all of these questions that we begin to analyze what we are really made of, what our body and mind is telling us that we want and need. The problem is knowing what you want, knowing what makes you happy, listening to yourself.
So how can I possibly know what I want? Many think that they need to seek, but what do they seek, how to seek “it”? The purpose of seeking is to find something in particular, to have a purpose on your quest but you don’t really know what you are looking for so again, what are you doing? The biggest mistake you can ever make is thinking that someone or something will help you find yourself or show you what you want, you need to understand that you are you, you are the only one who can know what YOU want! so many “you”s in one sentence but hey, exactly my point, it’s all about you, you, you. You need to decipher what you want and YOU need to make your own decisions otherwise not only might you live in regret, many times you will find yourself blaming others who tried to help you and other times you might end up with a life that didn’t really belong to you nor was intended for your happiness.
Many think that seeking into the unknown is the only way to find answers to all of these questions, like traveling, which I believe has become such a cliche lately in our generation; “Oh, I’m kinda lost, I don’t know what I want, I don’t know if I love this person, I don’t know what I am going to do with my future so I will just travel and my life will magically work itself out because I will find the love of my life and I will find an amazing job”. You travel not to build your future you travel to build yourself, to prepare for your future, to return to your original you and then work on what you want to be. You don’t travel to find the love of your life you travel to find and love yourself and to understand everything about you so you will then be able to see so clearly when you have found love, when you have found something extraordinary. It’s sad but many have already found love or have had this window of opportunity or adventure and have pushed this experience away because you didn’t know you wanted it, or it felt so right and so easy that you couldn’t believe it just happened to you, you didn’t think you deserved it.
This is what life is, a journey, you don’t have to travel the world to accomplish this, travel every day in your life in your mind and learn from everything, become the person the universe meant you to be. Realize that you don’t need anyone to be happy, to know that you can figure things out on your own, to know that you are capable of complete independence and adaptability to whatever life throws your way. Our generation needs to understand that things will come to us, we don’t have to seek for something all the time and you don’t have to force an answer at a certain moment, there is a moment for everything and you will experience what you need to experience at the time you are meant to live it so RELAX otherwise it could get ugly. Think about it for a sec, we force ourselves to know and to find that we many times seek in the wrong places, many times we think we want what others have right? We get into so many things because we compare to other experiences, other people’s lives and relationships and we think that’s what we want. This comparison is what causes much drama in a relationship, comparing your friend’s relationship with your own, or wanting your boyfriend to do what your friend’s partner does, you start analyzing every single detail of the relationship and you get to the conclusion that because you don’t know exactly what you feel or because you don’t understand this other person then it’s not working out and you start freaking out and either start forcing the relationship because you can’t be alone or you feel the need to go out there and date and date and date because there MIGHT be others out there that are better for you or maybe you think you have to date a certain amount of people to experience more and to know what you want in a guy. Some people are just very aware of who they are and what they want and they don’t need to date a million guys/gals out there to know that they have the one they want, they know that they are just happy and they don’t try to explain it they just know, this is your goal, just knowing, just being.
The only way you can do this is by listening to yourself, by staying mindful, living in the present and not dwelling on the past or thinking about the future so much. Don’t blame the past on your present or future actions and don’t use the past as an excuse for the way you are living your life. Sure, we’ve all been through tough times, breakups, divorces and what not but in order to be happy you have to love yourself and forgive yourself for all those experiences you believe to be negative but there is no negative experience in life, it’s all an experience, an event that helps you grow and become this person you are now and the person you will be. Each experience is meant to happen at the moment it happened, because the universe knows best! Many times you do attract things to come your way by focusing your energy towards a person or place or experience but at the end of the day it was your experience to live and your experience that will mark you and will sculpt the future you.
So take them in, all these experiences, take them into your life and understand that they happened for a reason and you don’t HAVE to understand why, just understand it’s meant to help you live the life you truly want. They are meant to teach you to love: to love yourself, to love others, to love the universe, to love your present. When you understand this you become spiritual, and this doesn’t have to be religious, it just means that you want more of yourself and that you want to be happy. Spirituality is defined by your relationship with yourself and human experience and by focusing this spirituality towards your happiness you will attract all good things and make others happy as well.
So be spiritual, want more of life, don’t settle, seek for your happy place, believe in love, believe in the universe and know that you are meant to be happy and more importantly that you deserve to be happy.